Las Vegas Spiritual Life Coach Jaclyn Costello

What is Prayer?

by Jaclyn on March 4, 2017

I heard the most beautiful answer to this question recently, and I want to share it with you.

The answer came from a Tibetan Buddhist abbot who’d spent the majority of his life deep in prayer in Nepalese monasteries.

He’d just been approached by a Westerner who asked, “When we sit among you and your fellow monks in the chanting halls, we hear your mantras, chimes, and gongs…we smell your incense…we see you bowing down…is all of this your prayer? What exactly is your prayer?”

The monk smiled and chuckled a little. “You have never seen our prayers because a prayer cannot be seen. What you have seen is what we do to create a feeling in our bodies, and the feeling we create is the prayer.”

This stuck with me ever since I heard it, as it reminds me of the incredible power we have to choose our own destiny based upon the feelings we create within ourselves.

Those inner feelings eventually become our outer Reality.

We answer our own prayers by creating feelings inside of ourselves–feelings of gratitude, abundance, peace, love, and anything else we wish to see appear in the outer world.

Some questions to ask yourself:

  • What prayers do I create within myself? (i.e. What feelings do I habitually feel?)
  • How do I create an environment that helps to nurture those prayers? (Do I use chants, incense, & sacred music like the monks, or do I use other spiritual aids?)
  • Am I un-consciously creating an undesired feeling within myself? (Take a look at the people & places that influence you. Take a look at the way you speak to yourself in your head. Do those elements match up with the internal environment you wish to create?)

Many blessings,
Jaclyn

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Feeling Down? Ask yourself these questions…

by Jaclyn on February 21, 2017

We all feel low from time to time. Part of the journey of being a human is to feel our way through life (Otherwise, what are we really? We are not machines…) However, feeling low for an extended period of time is not healthy or useful for anyone–and we should take care to avoid accepting a depressed feeling as our new ‘normal’ state of being.

If you’ve been feeling down and you aren’t sure why, I encourage you to ask yourself these six questions. They may help shed light upon some of the areas in your life that require nurturing.

 

Spiritual Life Coach Las Vegas1) Does my current work fit with what my soul is calling me to do?

It’s okay if your job is, well, your job! Your hobbies & passions can be something separate…but if your work is consistently draining, not aligned with your values, not ultimately serving the world for the better, or is something you dread, it’s time to re-consider.

I understand you may not know the next step yet. That’s okay. Start exploring. There’s no need to drop everything tomorrow and leap into the great unknown (although, that does work wonders for some people.) More conservatively, make the commitment to begin honestly looking into a career shift.

Perhaps this simply means less hours on your current job, which may also mean cutting back on expenses so you can focus more on your passions. Or, maybe it’s time to start that business you’ve been dreaming of; start working on your idea in the evenings, or wake up two hours earlier each day. Take a week/weekend away from your family and construct a master plan. If these suggestions sound ridiculous to you, ask yourself if you’re happy that you’ve created a life where these suggestions sound ridiculous. If ‘no’, then begin re-creating.

 

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2) Does my current lifestyle align with the person I desire to be?

If you would like a toned, healthy body but you drink three liters of alcohol each weekend and never go to the gym, keep dreaming. If you’d like a more peaceful mind but you listen to disturbing music and hang out with aggressive, negative people–your environment is working against you. If you’d like to be thought of as a graceful soul, yet you don’t say thank you to the fellow who held the door for you–or you don’t show compassion for the tired check-out clerk when you’re in a hurry–how do you ever imagine grace to fill your soul?

Take a look at everything you do on a daily basis, including the way you conduct yourself and the places you spend your leisure time, and ask yourself if your lifestyle is supportive of the person you long to be.

 

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3) Am I being totally honest in my relationships? Am I my most authentic self in my relationships?

Living authentically = living in joy.

Living in-authentically = living in misery.

Are you living as your most authentic, pure, TRUE self in your relationships? This is a big one. Our personal relationships are one of the most influential aspects of our lives. If we aren’t in healthy and honest partnerships with the people closest to us, we are bound to feel depleted and ‘off’. If you don’t receive enough support from your partner, aren’t deeply in love with (& loved by) him/her, are continually fighting petty battles, are no longer connecting physically, emotionally, or spiritually, or are holding in repressed emotions such as anger or resentment, it’s time for a heart-felt conversation.

There’s no need to suddenly drop the relationship (unless that’s what you’ve been called to do…) Less extremely, have a conversation with your partner about your desire to live more authentically. Explain to your partner what that looks like. Share how important it is that he/she supports you and loves you as your most authentic self. 

Then, ask you partner if he/she is living most authentically. How can you be more supportive along their journey?

If there are problems or repressed emotions that need to come to the surface, tenderly address those them in a calm & level-headed fashion. Don’t blame, shout, nag, ignore, or distort anything. I find it’s helpful to meditate before any heart-to-heart conversation with someone I love. That way, I’m in my best form going into the situation.

 

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4) Is everything I’m putting into my body healthy and supportive of a vibrant, strong physical system?

This includes pure foods, getting enough water & sunlight, your use of natural/unnatural beauty products, and your drug intake (not just illegal drugs–also caffeine, sugar, technological intake, alcohol, medications, birth control, etc.)

Take inventory. Everything that enters your precious body through the mouth, skin, sex organs, or any other mode of entry–becomes a part of you. Yes, you may reject or release part of what you intake, but part of everything we intake remains within us (even if only in ‘essence’, but oftentimes much more tangibly than that.)

I once worked with a woman who was on a raw foods cleanse. During the second month of clean-eating, she began to experience extreme de-toxification symptoms including: a perfume that she hadn’t worn for 25+ years began exiting through her skin! That’s correct. A perfume she’d worn in her teens & early twenties began seeping out through her pores, in her sweat. What had those chemicals been doing inside her all that time? Probably nothing helpful.

 

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5) Are there any messages I’ve been receiving intuitively that I continue to ignore?

You’ve heard it before, and you’ll hear it again: when God has a message for you, she taps politely at the door the first time….then, she returns with a fierce pounding. Finally, if you don’t open that door, she becomes a hurricane and blows it down, just so she can get through to you!

This is the way with all messages from God/Universe. The messages may first come to us as silent whispers–gentle voices we feel after we pray. We may be quick to ignore them because they don’t speak with vigor. Or, we may ignore them because we don’t like what they say (“Leave your relationship!” – “Get to the gym” – “You were wrong about that decision” – “Stop seeking power through fame and money. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. Live a good life, humbly.”)

Whatever the Universe may have whispered to you, if you ignored Her message the first time, you are bound to receive another message down the road. In the mean time, you will feel depressed, low, and lackluster. Why? Because you’re ignoring God’s guidance for you.

It isn’t God causing you to feel depressed. It’s your refusal to go where Providence is guiding. God knows how to bring you bliss, peace, satisfaction, abundance…you must only learn how to listen & submit to that intuitive guidance. When you listen to your soul’s guidance, you naturally move away from depression and into joy.

 

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6) Are my decisions driven by fear or love?

Straight-forward and simple: make choices from a place of love, every time. Refuse to be a slave to your fears and they WILL eventually dissipate.

At every cross-roads you approach in life–whether big or small–remember to make your decisions from a place of faith, love, and deep gratitude.

And never look back.

Blessings,
Jaclyn

 

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A Sweet Reminder for us all

by Jaclyn on February 4, 2017

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Everything is a Choice

by Jaclyn on January 24, 2017

Enjoy this short & sweet reminder, with love.

 

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What Does it Mean to Become a Queen?

by Jaclyn on January 19, 2017

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A Queen Wears the Weight of her Crown.

It’s not always easy. Sometimes she wants to remove the responsibility. Sometimes she wonders if she’d give it all up for a restful life with less burden to bear. But in her finer moments she knows she wouldn’t trade her life for anything–and she proudly embraces her missions, goals, and dreams. She feels honored to guide her Kingdom.

A Queen Chooses Aligned Relationships.

She shares her time with other men & women who embody the same integrity, strength, loving kindness, and lightness of spirit as She. A Queen does not have time for individuals engaging in gossip, frivolous arguments, a victim-mindset, or heavy negativity. If she chooses to have a partner, that partner is courageous, compassionate, protective, and aware. A Queen aligns with a King.

A Queen Takes Care of Herself.

How can she rule her Kingdom if she is falling to pieces inside? A Queen remains in control of her inner world, nurtures her Mind, Spirit, and Body, and listens to her intuitive callings. A Queen takes time to do the things that bring her joy and peace. A Queen does not find this selfish; she realizes it is necessary before she can properly lead.

A Queen Realizes her Weaknesses & Works to Better Herself.

A Queen is not perfect and does not pretend. She knows when to call in perspective from an adviser, a friend, her confidant, or her King. She is humble, vulnerable, and open to the insights of her trusted inner circle. She is always working to become the best possible version of herself. She does not stagnate. She evolves, constantly.

A Queen is Not Afraid to Speak her Truth.

She does not hide behind girlish modesty. She does not seek approval or look to please. When she knows something is true and must be shared, she speaks it with certainty. She stands up for herself, her loved ones, her Kingdom. She speaks gracefully.

A Queen Chooses her Battles.

A Queen knows when to conserve energy and when to fight for a cause. She does not engage in battles that are beneath her, battles that will exhaust resources beyond her ability to replenish them, or battles that her soul knows she should not fight. She checks in with her inner guidance before she commits herself to a challenge; she trusts that guidance and wisdom.

A Queen is Beautiful because She is Herself.

A Queen embraces her body, her laughter, her moments of sadness, her dreams, her unanswered questions, her Self as she is–all of it, every part of her being. She does not judge a crooked tooth or unsteady step. She knows that all of creation is a process–as she is a continual process of unfolding beauty, never arriving at a final horizon, never settling in complacency. A Queen is always on the rise, as herself, forever discovering more of herself while shedding the parts of herself she no longer needs. A Queen is not afraid to abandon herself and swim in a blissful ocean of non-identity because she knows the essential components of her soul will always re-surface again.

 

 

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