Las Vegas Spiritual Life Coach Jaclyn Costello

Healing

Holistic Health Coaching | Depression Counseling | Spiritual Guidance

On Healing

Healing occurs in the mind, heart, spirit, and body. Any system of self-improvement that does not address all of these essential components of the human being is lacking. I believe this so strongly I’ll repeat it: Any attempt to heal only one aspect of yourself without addressing the others, will ultimately lead to imbalance and unhappiness.

Just as your car, business, or favorite recipe must have all key components working together in order for the final product to be successful, all aspects of YOU must be in alignment in order to function at your utmost potential. If you find that you focus on only one or two areas of your life while neglecting the others, don’t get down on yourself. During the coaching process, we’ll bring all areas of your life up to speed.

Here are some of the many challenges I have helped clients overcome:

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Destabilizing levels of stress
Lack of fulfillment and purpose
Depression and anxiety
Lack of Spiritual Alignment
Relationship challenges
Concentration difficulties
Creative blocks
Weight issues and nutrition
Low self-esteem
Difficult breakups and divorces
Procrastination
Painful emotions (such as fear, anger, grief and guilt)
Social anxiety
Love sickness
Health issues
Self-defeating beliefs
and more

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The basic causes of non-hereditary disease are: improper diet, inadequate exercise, negative mental attitudes, toxic/stressful environmental influences (people, places, air quality, etc.), and lack of spiritual attunement. These combine to produce harmful conditions & breakdowns in your mind, emotions, body, and spirit. If you do not heal yourself when you first begin to notice something isn’t right, you run the risk of getting so off-track that being unhealthy and unhappy becomes the accepted reality for you.

 

Weight Loss, Diet, and Exercise

When you take care of your body by incorporating healthy foods and activities into your lifestyle, you become naturally more confident. Not only will your physical form improve, but you will glow from the inside out. Exercise is also fantastic for your brain; physical activity affects your mood, vitality, focus, and general feeling of well-being. Your skin and hair will also improve, and you’ll appear younger with more vibrancy and a sparkle in your eyes.

Leading a healthy life begins by controlling the sabotaging thoughts in your mind that cause you to overeat or skip a trip to the gym. Maybe you eat to numb out painful emotions. Maybe you snack mindlessly out of boredom. There are dozens of reasons why individuals form un-healthy relationships with food. We will get to the bottom of your specific condition, then create a customized health plan based on your unique lifestyle. Most importantly, I’ll work with you to overcome any deeply rooted, self-defeating behaviors and beliefs you have attached to food or body image.

I’ve been practicing an active, healthy lifestyle for the majority of my life and love sharing what I’ve learned. I was once a raw foods aficionado and am more than happy to introduce you to this cleansing way of eating–however, I do not believe everyone is suited for a raw foods lifestyle, so I remain fluent in a variety of healthy food preparations.

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In the Seychelles a few years ago

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Depression, Despair, Feeling ‘Stuck’, Dark Nights of the Soul

If you’re experiencing deep emotional pain and you’re reading this, you are exceptionally lucky.

What?” you might be thinking, “Lucky? Me? To feel this isolation and despair?”

You are lucky because you have the capacity to experience some of the most meaningful depths felt by a human being. Often times it is through depressions that we develop soul, humility, compassion, and bravery. You are facing darkness head on. Not everyone is that brave! And not everyone has a heart big enough to contain the amount of sadness that you feel. That is why I call you lucky. You are full of soul, depth, bravery, and heart.

I realize you are suffering right now. You may be experiencing confusion or loss, or you may feel as if you derailed from your path and are living life as a series of shallow gestures with no meaning attached to them. Please understand, this is all a part of the strongest soul’s journey. Every challenge you face is a test of your stamina… and this WILL pass.

Even if you don’t believe in God (or any power larger than yourself) you must take a look at this simple truth:

Impermanence.

I taught third grade for a year in a suburb of Chicago. It was a difficult time in my life, as I had just returned from living in Morocco and was having trouble re-acclimating to America. I was also trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life (it wasn’t teaching third grade.) I was so distraught, in fact, I sometimes crouched behind my classroom desk and cried. When I went to a doctor in hopes of being referred to a therapist, the doctor insisted on writing a prescription for me instead. “Pills are cheaper than therapy,” he told me. I couldn’t believe it! Needless to say, I did not fill the prescription. I turned to healthy eating and spirituality to pull me through the transition.

Back to my third graders…one of the in-class assignments I gave was for each child to close their eyes and pick a random word or phrase from a collection of magazine clippings I had placed in a hat. Then each child incorporated his/her selection into a story or poem of their creation.

A quiet little boy named Tyler selected the following phrase: without leaving a footprint. He diligently bent over his desk and glued his phrase to a piece of construction paper before composing his poem using a blue magic marker. When he was finished, he walked to the front of the room and handed me his creation.

All Things Big and Small

as small as a pebble
as big as the sun
this all just comes and goes
without leaving a footprint

I couldn’t believe it! How did little Tyler know something so profound at such a young age? Because we are born knowing. It is only the world that makes us forget. Worldly attachments and personal distractions keep us from the simple truths that lay waiting patiently to be re-discovered. It took Tyler’s poem being placed in my hands for me to remember that no matter how big my problems seemed to me at the time, they would all be gone someday, as would I. Everything was immediately placed within a much larger, more meaningful perspective.

Remember this phase: “And this too shall pass.” No matter what you’re experiencing right now, it’s important for you to realize that you WILL survive. You WILL traverse this barren desert. You WILL pass through this abyss. Someday, your heart, body, spirit and mind WILL heal themselves anew.

Even if you feel like you’ve made horrible mistakes that led you to where you are today, remember that this is an opportunity for you to become great through your mistakes. After making a mistake, you are humble enough to see the areas in your life that need to change.

If reading this makes you want to throw a brick at my head, I understand. When you’re suffering, the last thing you want to hear is that it’s all there to teach you a lesson. I’m sure you’d prefer that someone just handed you a roadmap out of purgatory. But leaving purgatory is work, my friend. And it often means letting go of familiar people, places, beliefs, and mindsets that are limiting your ability to enter a new cycle of change.

If you’re afraid to let go, that’s normal, but realize that unless you overcome your fears and move forward, you will forever remain stuck between two worlds: the old world that you need to release, and the new world that you’re afraid to enter. Contact me to help you through this difficult territory as you complete your healing transformation.

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Dark Nights of the Soul

The painting that engrosses us is not the one that omits the devil, but one in which the devil appears thrashing, grasped by the neck.”—William James

I was once told that all emotional pain is an indication of spiritual distress. This is frequently true. Higher guidance can come through stress, nausea, heartache, or any other route to get our attention. More often than not, you will be unaware that the crisis is spiritual in nature, and you may describe the dilemma as psychological. How do you know if the real cause of your pain is spiritual? Here are some indicators:

1) the crisis began with an awareness of a deep absence or longing
2) you feel as if something is trying to wake-up inside you
3) you feel as if you are losing touch with a sense of identity and are no longer sure of what you want out of life
4) there is a strong need to experience devotion to something greater than yourself

Having a spiritual crisis lets you know that you need to break free from the beliefs that are no longer serving your personal development. You must choose to stagnate or evolve.

During a spiritual dark night (which could actually be many, many nights), you come to know the contents of your mind, heart, and soul while confronting your fears, pursuing your shadow side, and challenging false gods who often do not give up their hold without a fight. Enduring a dark night requires faith and stamina.

Remember: Sometimes we move away from who we are so we can know who we are not.

It’s also important to remember that a dark night of the soul DOES have a purpose. It is part of your initiation on a spiritual journey. You are preparing to allow for more Divinity to move through you. Real expansion begins when you clear yourself internally and release any tendencies towards fantasy, attachment, domination over others, greed, and ego-driven self-rightousness. Once those tendencies are conquered, the Divine can flow freely through you.

Further, once you’ve evolved through this difficult terrain, you’ll be able to most authentically help others overcome the darkness in themselves and in this world.

I won’t spend my time telling you the details of my own dark nights, but I will say, I’ve been through my share of trenches and valleys. I’ve experienced loss, death, spiritual crises, heartbreak, and unwarranted aggression. The simple truth remains: it all passes. And once you’ve weathered the storm, you will realize once again that all of life is a gift. To feel the sting of the cold, to share a lover’s embrace, to eat, to build, to suffer, to laugh, to die, to be re-born again—this is all a blessing.

St. John of the Cross was the first to refer to a spiritual crisis as a ‘dark night of the soul.’ He knew that because so few people can endure direct contact with heaven, God intended to strengthen them before offering them the ultimate gift of experiencing heaven on earth.

Never forget that.

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On Emotions

If you want to make your life work for you, you must get a handle on your emotions. You can’t run from them, tune them out, or lie to yourself about what they mean. When you are in the presence of a strong emotion, try the following:

1) Identify what you’re feeling
When you’re experiencing an emotion (particularly a negative one) ask yourself, “What exactly am I feeling right now? Is this anger? Regret? Boredom? Anxiety?”

2) Acknowledge and appreciate the emotion
Be thankful that your emotion is there to bring you a message. Emotions are there to serve you!

3) Ask yourself, what is the message this emotion is offering me?
Getting curious helps you master your emotion. Examine what the emotion is telling you, as well as how you would rather feel and how you can prepare yourself to feel more positively in the future.

4) Handle the emotion as best you can, and realize you will handle it even better in the future.

Note: If you are someone who bottles up emotions, or does not address problems and challenges as they come, click here to read a bit on “How Problems Grow Roots.”

Remember: if you are currently being presented with a challenge or relationship that’s stretching you to your limits—pay attention! Unless you learn what must be learned from the situation, you will repeat the lesson, again and again, until you get it right.

Think of the movie, Groundhog Day. Whether you enjoyed the film or not, its message was clear: learn what you need to learn today, or you won’t move on to tomorrow. In real life, however, you are not afforded the luxury of being able to repeat a single day over and over again until you get it right. Instead, if you fail to pass your lesson the first time around, the Universe will dish out the same lesson again within an even larger context. If you still don’t learn the lesson, you’re in for an even bigger reminder in the future…

I wrote a personal piece about this quite a few years ago. Click here to read ‘NOW is the Time to Heal’.

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Building Self-Reliance

We possess beauty when we are true to our own being; ugliness is in going over to another order.”–Plotinus

Self-esteem is gained through your ability to be an autonomous human being. What does that mean? Self-sufficiency. Holding yourself to a higher standard. Being able to take care of yourself so that at any moment you have the freedom to walk away from a bad situation and choose a better life. You must have the confidence to approach your life directly—to be able to say exactly what you need to say, exactly when you need to say it. If you need to tell someone, “You know, this really doesn’t work for me,” you should be able to do so without hesitation or fear.

If suffering from low self-esteem, you cannot act on your intuitive promptings because the fear of failure is too intense. The more self-esteem you build in yourself, the less you can be compromised. Remember: If you can be bought—if you can be compromised—if you sell your soul for safety, you will always jam your higher guidance.

I’m here to help you step into the authority of your life so you make choices that enhance your self-empowerment. No one said it was going to be easy. In fact, the road to self-empowerment is often steep. This is because gaining self-esteem requires that you finish all of your unfinished business. If you’re ready to take on that challenge and reach your highest potential, I will help you arrive.

 

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