Men. You animals. You absolute Beasts.
You undomesticated savages. You—
in the form of humans.
in the form of grown up boys.
You are TOTAL. You are complete.
We need you just as you are.
We—I am speaking for all of your Lovers—we need your strength, protection, heroic gestures of power & might, your selfless chivalry.
And at the same time, we need you to be tender, open-hearted, generous with your love. We want to rest our head on your chest and have the the world dissolve around us.
We know we expect a lot from you. We know the world demands even more. The world tells you to produce, thrive, succeed, conquer, create a legacy. Be a great father. A role model to all. A mentor to your brothers. The captain of the ship. The shining leader of the entire enterprise. Keep going. Don’t rest. Don’t show an ounce of vulnerability!! (this is the world speaking…)
Internally, you are gentle, sweet, playful, Divine—though at times you find it difficult to follow these more subtle callings—these urges that stir quietly in your heart when no one else is watching. Whether or not you yet realize–you long for spiritual expansion. Perhaps you have pushed this desire aside to instead focus on creating a worldy empire. There is no shame in that. We understand. You are striving to be Superman, 2016.
Guess what? You already won.
Being a total Man doesn’t require a 100K car, vacations to the Maldives, or nods of approval from the big shot down the street. Your power doesn’t need any external validation. Yes, you can strive for those things; acquire and enjoy them when they arrive. But remember this–
What will you do with the world at your feet if you can’t even find your own Self?
Don’t worry men, this is not therapy. I’m not here to over-analyze your childhood or point out all your shortcomings & emotional deficiencies (you have your exes for that.) I understand that you want to feel successful, loved, at peace, free, healthy, and aligned with your soul’s true calling.
As your personal life coach, I’m here to help you:
• Reduce your stress levels & settle into a more peaceful mindset
• Recognize and overcome the barriers holding you back from greater success
• Get in touch with your authentic, core values & desires; then begin to create a life reflective of those dreams
• Build and maintain strong, exciting, loving relationships–filled with passion and intimacy
• Open up, loosen up, realize you’re most incredible as your most yourself
• Move forward after a difficult break-up or divorce
• Deepen and develop your spirituality (because this helps everything!)
• Let go of beliefs, habits, and mindsets that are not supporting your highest development
• Overcome your doubts and fears
• Become a more effective leader
• Connect & communicate with your Intuition
• Eliminate anger issues; learn to forgive yourself & others
• Build more self-confidence and self-trust
• Reduce conflicts in the workplace or in your personal life
• Evaluate and strengthen your personal relationships, including your romantic relationship (Is she right for you? What needs to change? Is it time to leave?)
I’m a big fan of what Tony Robbins says about life coaches:
“Coaches work like personal trainers: if you really wanted to improve your body and you had the money, time, and inclination, you’d hire a personal trainer. Your trainer would be able to target trouble zones, motivate you in the gym, push you when you were thinking of skipping a day, and teach you how to maintain the results you worked so hard to achieve. This same idea holds true with a life coach. If you really want to improve your life, you need to find someone outstanding who can help you produce lasting results.”
Maybe you think you should be able to figure it out on your own. It’s hard to ask for help when you’re used to being the one who fixes everything. Yet without calling in some reinforcement soon, you will still be feeling the same way you do today, next week, next month, and next year. Don’t delay transforming your life when you know something needs to evolve.
Successful people are not afraid to invest in themselves, just as they would see the importance of investing in their business if they wanted it to flourish. They understand the importance of continual self-growth, and they know that the clarity, focus, and confidence they gain while working with a coach will help accelerate their lives.
Even if it’s easy for you to sit down in a moment of peace and map out the clearest, most beneficial plan for your life, once you’re back in the storm those best-laid plans may have a tendency to disintegrate. That’s when having a trusted life coach at your side will keep you encouraged, focused, & always progressing steadily toward your goals.
Remember: A coach doesn’t need to be better than you. Phil Jackson wasn’t better than Michael Jordan. Tony Robbins isn’t better than the trader he coached to make millions in one year. What a coach provides is insightful perspective from outside your point of view, to help guide you to create positive change.
Though there’s no specific formula that works for every man, I’ve been doing this long enough to know what it takes to get to the bottom of what’s holding you back from reaching your full potential. I’m here to help you break through barriers and move out of your comfort zone so you can grow and succeed beyond where you thought possible.
What are some of the reasons men come to see me?
Do you feel as if you carry the weight for your entire family, company, or division?
Do you consider mistakes failures?
Did you put your personal or spiritual life on hold to achieve ‘success’ then discover you’re not as fulfilled or ecstatic about life as you imagined you’d be?
Do you have knee-jerk reactions to challenging instances that you later regret?
Do you have trouble sleeping because you’re replaying events from the day or planning for tomorrow?
Are you constantly worried about money?
Do you believe that all conflicts are ultimately your fault?
Is your health less than ideal? (i.e. not enough gym time, poor eating habits, sullen eyes or skin)
Do you feel weak if you ask for help?
Do you constantly compare yourself to other men (i.e. successful acquaintances, siblings, yourself from the past)
If any of this sounds like you, it’s time to step back, slow down, and re-consider your approach. to life. If you maintain your current mindset, you run the risk of permanently damaging your health, alienating your peace of mind, and greatly upsetting the relationships you have with those around you. Get in touch with me to work on ways to maintain your ambition without letting it affect your health, peace of mind, or relationships.
It’s not a crisis…it’s a mortality check! A chance to re-think and start anew. Acknowledging death can be a liberating experience if you are lead to value every moment of life.